I've seen this happen too many times. The woman with a good man, but leaves him; because another guy shows her more attention. It’s amazing. The oldest trick in the book; give a woman a million compliments and It pleases her soul. Everyone knows that those soft sweet words will soon sink in; especially if it’s rough at home. What's crazy is; some people want the relationship, but can't handle the growing pains that come with it. Men don't talk as much, nor do they express many feelings. That's true; in some circumstances. Men often equate love through their actions; providing, protecting, being the muscle etc. A lot of times they forget women need attention. It’s not purposely and it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The player on the other hand has nothing but time on his hands. He isn't preoccupied with the worries of the bills and your well being. He is more concerned with every sexual fantasy that he can fulfill with you. His words are always pleasant, he never argues, he doesn't judge you, nor does he question you; He is perfect. Am I right? Of course I am; and so is the arrangement between the two of you. From his perspective, it couldn't be better. If you want the truth; he only has one concern; that's enjoying the rendezvous you have together.
Here is a sobering thought... Before you leave Mr. Things Could Be Better; Tell Mr. Things Are so Great; you are leaving your man to be with him. Tell him how you fantasize about the long nights of conversation, the days you like to complain about the small things he forgot to do or say. Tell him how much you can't wait for him to baby sit while you go out with the girls. Wait; on Saturday, instead of riding out with the boys, tell him you rather hold hands and walk through the mall. Let's see how fast he agrees or see how fast he backs out. You WILL be surprised. Don't be so quick to leave a good man because he lacks the small things. So many people leave love for lust; which makes me ask the real question at hand. What are you truly looking for? Sometimes people use any reason, to justify their own lust and sexual ambitions. If that's the case; be fair enough to tell your mate. The last thing a person deserves; is to feel like their imperfections lead you away from them.
